Family and Child Counselling
“Much of today’s popular advice to parents ignores emotion,” says Dr. Gottman. “Instead it relies on child-rearing theories that address children’s misbehaviour but disregards the feelings that underlie that misbehaviour. The ultimate goal of raising children should not be simply to have an obedient and compliant child.
The secret to being an emotionally intelligent parent lay in how parents interacted with their children when emotions ran hot.”
The approach by Gottman above is a fantastic summary of what I believe to be crucial in supporting our children. Parenting is full of challenges and yet we get little support for how to do it...all the manuals/parenting guides that are out there are a great ‘catch-all’ approach but do not allow for the nuances, specific quirks of your child. It is so easy to get lost in practice that is based upon moulding and shaping your child into something you want them to be, as opposed to being a ‘gardener’ creating the groundwork and planting the seeds for emotional growth.